There’s a huge amount of talk about New Years Resolutions at the moment. I too was going to post about what I wanted to achieve in 2013, but then I thought about my resolve to do and not do in 2012 post and all the things in that that I’ve not achieved that I wanted to and that just depressed me. So I thought better of it.
However, I didn’t want this new year to pass without at least a nod to the fact that it’s a new start, a new beginning so I wondered and googled, googled and wondered and eventually came across the idea of the “one word” resolution. Instead of choosing what you think are the most problematic areas in your life and resolving to change them in a year, only to have forgotten about them by the end of January. This idea breaks the depressing cycle of failed new year resolutions. “My One Word” is an experiment designed to move you beyond this cycle. The challenge is simple: lose the long list of resolutions and instead pick ONE WORD.
So, how do you choose your word. I’ve been thinking about mine for days on end. There are so many words to choose from, and trying to say what you want to achieve in just one word is actually pretty hard.
But, I found it, eventually. My word is…
One of the reasons I fell in love with my husband is that he is totally real, you always know how he’s feeling, he never fakes it. Not for anyone. This, at times, is awkward. Sometimes I wish he’d just fake it for an hour to get through an event. But I can’t have it both ways and I’d much prefer the real him. I, on the other hand, can be a complete fake. I’m too eager to please and keep everyone happy that I sometimes forget myself, forget what I want, what I need and paste on this fake face to please everyone else. But actually it doesn’t get you anywhere in the end.
So, this year is the year where I’ll be me. As the fabulous Dr Seuss said “Be yourself, because those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter.” This is the year where I will find my true friends (though I already know who they are) as they’ll love me for me, and the rest…. well, I’m better off without them if they’d rather have the fake me!